How to live in the moment on your wedding day | Amarillo Wedding Photographer
You spend months planning what will become one of the most important and exciting days of your life. But it’s only one day and it can speed by faster than you think. Pretty soon all you will have left is the pictures (which I think are important but not the same as your actual memories). You want to remember how you felt on your wedding day and achieving this involves being present and living in the moment.
Mason and I got married nearly four years ago and unfortunately, there are things I’ve forgotten after that amount of time and there are things I wish I would have done differently. But in the end, I married the love of my life. So don’t stress out about un-stressing ;)
Get a good night’s sleep. Easier said than done right? I don’t have to room to talk because I barely slept a wink the night before my wedding. You should at least try to get to bed at a decent time. Try pampering yourself a little before going to bed by taking a bath, wearing comfy pajamas, and sleeping in clean sheets. I have had sleep issues my entire life so if I can’t sleep I usually take a Melatonin and that does the trick.
If I could give my best tip about being present for your wedding day it would be to trust your vendors. You chose them because you loved their past work and you trusted them to execute that vision for your wedding day. You can meet with them and talk about your day and everything you want but when it comes time for the show to go on, it’s time to let go and learn to trust them. They’ve got your timeline under control, they know what pictures you want taken, they know what songs are must-plays for the reception. If you hired high quality vendors, then you have nothing to worry about. You can relax and just enjoy the ride.
Put unique moments in your ceremony. It’s funny that the ceremony is the most important yet usually the shortest part of a wedding day. While a ceremony doesn’t need to be super long, it helps you to live in the moment if you insert personal details into your ceremony. Mason and I took communion and prayed together while our friend performed the song “Southbound Train” by Jon Foreman. I have seen other couples wash each others’ feet, sing a worship song, braid three strands of rope together, among other things.
One moment that I wish I could remember better is when my dad walked me down the aisle. I don’t particularly like being the center of attention but on your wedding day all eyes are on you! Whether you like that or not, your heart might race a bit while walking down the aisle. You might want to pretty much run down it. I would suggest taking a deep breath right before you head down and be intentional about remembering this moment.
Do a first look or a “first look without the look.” First looks are great way to banish jitters before you walk down the aisle. If you see your groom in a private moment before the ceremony, you will be able to embrace, laugh, talk, and basically do whatever you want without a bunch of eyes staring at you. This will allow you to savor each second more easily. If you’re traditional and don’t want to see each other before the ceremony you might consider a “first look without the look,” as I like to call it. This is where you hold hands behind a door or wall. You can even pray together or exchange letters. This is a beautiful moment that is hard to forget.
You should definitely hire a wedding planner/coordinator or at least have a family member or friend be the go-to person. I was blessed to have a friend that simply loved weddings and had experience with coordinating weddings. She volunteered to be the person who knew all of the answers to questions anyone might have so I didn’t have to. It was perfect.
Nothing drains our attention more than technology so put your phone away. You won’t need to take photos and everyone you would want to call/text/Facebook is already around you! So enjoy the short time you have with them.
Make sure your dress and shoes are comfortable. Break your shoes in before the wedding day. Also, I’ve noticed that a lot of brides choose dresses that they can’t even sit in. While I’m sure it is beautiful, the dress shouldn’t become a distraction. It’s difficult to enjoy the once-in-a-lifetime moments of your wedding day if you’re in pain.